The fact that I’m having to write this makes me sick.
However in the essence of clarity and the fact that I have tried to meditate on what to do, but I had to hurry too because I might lose my power, I will tell you all what the deal is.
I am one little old lady in Canada who has been in the sex industry for decades in one way or another but primarily in BDSM. If you would take five minutes to do a simple search such as -Dr Sue Fetish- you’ll probably find a bunch of stuff to keep you busy for a while.
Through the years I have been accused of lots of things and any of my diehard fans and clients know many of them were public annnnnd some not. But that is the price you pay for one, being an individual with different ideals and tastes and two, putting yourself in the public eye in any way such as social media.
I’ve been accused of pretending to be either Dr Suzy Block or Sue Johanson of which I have never done but I understand people get confused and I addressed that and continue to do so.
I have been accused of being a bully and a ‘kink shamer’ by some women because of my opinions and articles. So understand I’ve been here before. Not everyone is going to like me. And if you come at me, I’m human I get wounded and I also come out fighting.
I wasn’t born a loud mouthed bitch, I became one. And for my own reasons I continue to be one primarily for those who don’t, won’t, or can’t scream for themselves. It’s who I am now. I’m brash and in your face. The most PC way anyone has ever described me was ‘colorful.’ But the beauty of this world we live in, is that I’m allowed to be whatever way I want to be, just like you. And if you don’t like me, move on, turn me off and tune me out. God speed.
Every day, in the sex industry AND the world in general we are having smoke blown up our asses. I however refuse to add to your gas. I will never sugar coat anything and because of that people freak out. I push buttons, I get that. Let’s not forget I’m a Dominatrix, not an excuse, it’s who I am, not my schtick.
But don’t ever come at my character because I have way too many people who can prove you wrong. I tell the truth and sometimes that truth hurts. If I see something that needs to be done, I do it or call it. I don’t stand around and wait for permission from some invisible authority to act when something needs to be addressed and call me nutty I felt the washing machine of madness we have ALL been thrust into fell in to that catgory. Bull in a china shop? Maybe. But at least I’m not standing in the shadows adding to the hysteria. I try to make sense of it myself, then if I can, I try to help you IF you want to be helped.
What was said today is the most despicable, disgusting accusation that has ever been flung my way simply because this isn’t the time for this. And I’m going to crush it now if/when it comes out because that is the point of what I’m doing on this site.
Without VETTING her sources or even contacting said website at all, it was thrown out on Twitter, not publically but in a private DM multi-chat filled with women trying to compile and share information on this fucking law, a woman working for a ‘SW Organization,’ (and YES I call in to question your org now) went off saying that this site was owned by a group of non-sex workers wanting to profit off of FOSTA; that I had been offered 50k from a media company to supply them with information.
As a dear friend on social media basically said, ‘where’s the 50k cause that would be really appreciated right about now.’ There is, has, was, nor have I ever been offered any money, of any kind, nor received an offers from anyone for information that is PUBLICALLY AVAILABLE but compiled here. Remember folks everything on this site was and is PUBLIC KNOWLEDGE. I simply compile it in one place, and if tips come in I vet them and remind you constantly that things change. There are no advertisements on this site as you can see for yourself. There isn’t even an affiliate link, which I’m well within my rights to do but would never think of doing.
So let me make something crystal clear my friends, I bought this site and the url from my own money. Yes the WHOIS is private. DUH, you’re reading this, that pretty much explains why I did that and clearly it was a good idea. At this point that puts me in the hole financially.
When the fallout of the bill passing started, well before it was law and Backpage was seized, people were panicking; sites were shutting down at a rate so fast I was literally unable to keep up. But I tried to sort through it, VET IT and then put it out there so people could have a reliable source for up to the minute information as our world, (YES OUR WORLD I’m a sex worker too), came crashing down.
I had a choice, I could just watch and learn the information and keep it to myself, or share it and try to help. At the time, because it was happening so fast, I threw the information on one of my personal sites and started sharing the info as fast as I could post it. Those of you who read it know, I was posting the times the site was updated it was so crazy.
I then started hearing about how I was somehow profiting off of that site when in fact the opposite would be true. I understood that in the climate of uncertainty that we are in that it could be misconstrued because of it being my personal site; I do have my audios and advertisements on it. So I had a choice, dump the info or move the info and move it seemed to be a no-brainer. So that’s what I did. I copy and pasted information that I have been sharing for two weeks RELENTLESSLY AND PUBLICALLY WITH THE FULL AWARENESS OF SWOPUSA ON TWITTER, again, not hard to vet this. I also posted on both TWITTER and SWITTER that I was going to be moving the info to its own site.
During the time I was compiling and posting the information when it was on my own site I was attacked by religious idiots and some women in my slice of the sex industry pie with a sprinkle of other things dusted on top. Fine, whatever, but to make a complete on-the-fly BLATANT LIE in a chat room filled with people trying to sort out who is real and what is real, there are no words to describe my shock. This is precisely what we are trying to sift through the ‘fake news’ and she is adding to the madness. She then contacted SWOP USA to report the site as profiteering in some way so SWOP did the professional thing and contacted me to ask me to who the hell I was, (something that has to be done now the least of which is I AM NOT LAW ENFORCEMENT), which I did and they are happy to have me boost their information. (see how easy that was?)
She then flipped out over what is in the sidebar of this site. Both of Liara Roux’s forms/documents, one concerning her work that she is doing to compile information to help keep track of the number of women who are being affected so that we can then have NUMBERS to take to law makers, and two, the one that is a press form for any sex worker who is willing to talk to the press and is open and out and she can then direct them to the appropriate news media. Both CLEARLY state this. But allegedly there is beef with this woman and Liara, whatever I don’t do bullshit like that.
Understand I have been approached by podcasts and news orgs asking me to provide them with names to sex workers willing to talk on the air. I will tell you what I told them. This is NOT the time to be sensationalizing people for clicks and listens because it’s too soon, people are too scared. And they got no names from me. This is simply a way to ensure that you are properly represented to the press, as in, what you are and are not willing to talk about. She felt it was hideous that the information WOULD BE RELEASED TO THE PRESS??????
Look, if this had been a one-off of someone freakin on me, that’s fine, whatever, but when you make blatant lies in a room full of people trying to fix, vet and help, you create an unnecessary air of uncertainty when people are simply trying to help AND you are taking a direct stab at my integrity and don’t think I’m gonna let that go. All it would take was one screenshot, one DM, of the rantings of the moron and any info I’ve released is called in to question. And why should you care? Because NOBODY ELSE CARES! No one wants to bother with this shit. It’s already died down so much that everyone thinks this FOSTA shit is over. IT’S ONLY STARTED! I am badgered by my family and friends both in the industry and not to STOP HELPING PEOPLE. And they’re right because this is a clear example of WHY people in our society don’t help. Why people drive by carnage and just forget about it. This is why.
So now you have a choice, watch what I post and keep your eye on what is happening around you that effects your business and therefore your life, or not. It’s really that simple. But I’m not going anywhere. I am going to continue to sort this shit we have slid into and post it right here for people who DO give a damn.
And let me add something else, if I HAD been approached I am well within my rights to do what I want with this site AND its contents. But since I’m not collecting any data, simply showing you info, I fail to see the panic. Nor did I even have to address this bullshit, however that would be counter-productive and not who I am.
I was in a hurry to put this site together and move the information and it hasn’t even been live 48 hours and I’m already dealing with the exact crap we’ve been trying to sift through. In so doing, I have not had the chance to create an ABOUT page but CONTACT always worked. I’m sorry, I thought the information was more important. So consider this your About page.
Listen, I already said I’m not perfect but don’t ever come at me and throw such vile accusations and spread blatant lies under the guise of helping sex workers. I will say to anyone who follows you or watched what went down in that chatroom today, that I call in to question ANYTHING that you write or anything that comes out of your mouth. I will not reveal who it is so don’t ask, that’s not what this is about. This is about squashing bullshit before it starts flaming on your doorstep.
This is PRECISELY the issue we are dealing with, don’t make it worse by literally creating a lie out of thin air because that my friend is slander. And I won’t stand for it. Understand, I’m an open book all you have to do is ask and if you don’t want to ask, get someone else to but don’t make this already intensely fucked up time even worse by spreading lies.
But I will say this, once again this situation taught me something that I still have to work on and that’s my emotional reaction to bullshit. Thank you…. gotta work on that…. but in the meantime my human ass is tired.
This is all I’m going to say on this madness. I have a show to produce and information to get to people who matter.
Sue “Dr Sue” Storm